Finding that “special someone” Robin Korth Looking for that special someone to fill up the “empty places” in my life doesn’t work. Because this feeling of lack can never be filled by anyone but me. This is a simple and pure-truth fact. Filling myself up is a journey I must take into the inner reaches of who I really am—and who I want to be. I am discovering that what I thought were empty places, aren’t really empty at all. They are the places where parts of me belong–the pieces of me that I set aside, forgot to explore, or closed the door on because I am ashamed or scared of what I shall find. I have everything I need already within me, when I have the self-honesty and guts to unfold myself into the reality of me. I am the wonderful person I shall ever know–when I nourish myself, push the edges of my spirit and drive the adventure of my soul. As I bloom more fully into who I am, I find that I don’t “need” a partner anymore. I would love a companion, lover and friend to share myself with, but there is no longer the aching desire for that special someone who is going to make everything “perfect.” I am becoming whole and complete within my own understandings and passions. I’m the one discovering, evoking and loving who I am, as I am exploring the full knowing of what life can be—for me. And in this “wholeness” there is a powerful wonder, a mighty curiosity and an abiding peace. I am at the center of the adventure of my own life. I am allowing, loving, brave and free. And, I get to be generous, open, easy and loving with those around me. The best part? I don’t have to turn myself inside out trying to please some else anymore. I have boundaries of self-care and self-respect that make me feel good about myself. I don’t wonder what others are thinking, I don’t worry if the phone doesn’t ring. I don’t feel lonely or abandoned. I am living my life from deep within me. And I get to do the joyous, co-creative, laughing and wonderful work of learning and loving more of who I am each day. And in doing this, I am anchored, curious, generous, loving and at ease within most aspects of my life–and within myself. Living from the inside makes me self-knowing, self-honoring and available for all that life shall bring. Perhaps a life-partner will show up; perhaps not. Either way, my life is a mighty gift for me to cherish and hold close to my soul, because I stand at the center of it–grateful, loving and free.

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